O Lighten Up

Sometimes the things you learn from a relationship are acquired best after the relationship has ended.

The process of separation is unique for everyone, and there are obvious questions we all ask when it is over.  I briefly list a few of the obvious ones and then address a question that I value.  Some obvious but useful questions are:

1.       What was my role in the health/sickness of the relationship?

2.       How can I learn and grow from that?

3.       What will I change for my next one?

4.       How do I define a healthy relationship?

5.       Am I secure in my own knowledge of self to know what my boundaries are and how to keep them safe and healthy while respecting my partners?

6.       Do I have enough love and respect of myself so as to not be needy and to be able to give love freely?

My question of the deepest value now is:

How do I view this person now?  Is it with compassion and love for them as a fellow traveler through life or do I have negative and constricting thoughts?  How am I managing my energy while remembering the relationship?

The reason this last question is so significant for me is because I have a spiritual practice of meditation for enlightenment.  Through the process of meditation I have become more aware of my brain tricks and subtle shifts of consciousness and fields of energy in myself.  It is so exciting because I can think or say or do something and if I feel my consciousness restrict or close in I am getting quicker feedback and this observation enables me to address what caused the constriction so I can clear it out.  I greet the negativity with compassion, understand it, see underneath it, and put it to peace.

The ex, then, becomes a spiritual barometer.  As the formerly wild ambivalent mood swings between love and hate have narrowed to be a simple clarity of what was, was, and is not meant to be, and was just a few seconds on this planet of learning experience, and is now in the past;  it frees the soul to shift, to house new thought forms, and to continue to shift consciousness forward.

So, what spiritual barometers do you have?  Let us lighten up.  Blessed BE.

Our fruits

As the juices of sap flow through the fibrous flesh of a tree, our own life force pushes through our tissues and bodies budding in to action, thought, and word. 

I have found in my personal journey that I have often confused the external behaviors with the internal source.  Although it is true that the physical gets manifested out from the work done on the inside; it is important to note that as we grow and change who we are from the inside, the harvested fruits and the spoiled fruits on the ground are results from a previous state of existence. 

Past behaviors, past relationships, and past experiences, although they leave a mark, do not change the life giving energy that can heal through bad seasons and produce new fresh and healthy fruits.

As we stand in vitality, we don’t have to mourn the dying fruit spoiled at our feet.  That is the past.  It is our inner light with which we create new life, manifest new behaviors, and new relationships.

Turning to the sunshine and shimmering in the fresh breeze, we can begin a new season seeding plump with new fruit.  Some may do well, some may do poorly, but it is a new season as we will have several.

Even when we are done with all of our seasons as that tree, spoiled or harvested fruits have seeded to new beginnings and new seasons.  Seeds that did not survive do not negate the source that produced them.  In the seeds that did survive, that vitality pushes on excitedly through new flesh.

Here’s to rejoicing together in new seasons!  Blessed BE.

Is life a test?

The idea that Life is a “test” is finally making more sense to me.

Life is not a test in the manner that you pass or fail like I was raised to believe.  If you spent a few seconds in all of eternity doing these things that someone said “god commanded,”then you would either go to heaven or hell.  Instead, life is a test in the sense that we experiment and find out what works and doesn't work for us individually and collectively.

I believe that physical form is emergent from prime consciousness and that the way that conscious essence can have experience is to “go through a fall” of sorts to become matter – or flesh – so that we can push through physicality and evolve various senses and levels of awareness that help us not only experience the physical dimension, but that can help us transcend it through evolved brain states to return to that limitless state of infinite possibility of prime consciousness.  We are the infinite experiencing itself through physicality and evolving brain states to catch up to the pure and divine understanding of spirit. 

When we are born, we have life experiences that take us away from the memories of who we really are and end up with conditioning, lies, and illusion, and these habits perpetuate through the chemistry of our brains.

Considering that we evolve in physicality to try to catch up with the transcendent and pure states of ourselves as experiments in “what works” instead of the more judgmental form of the word “test” makes it easier for me to be kinder to myself and others.  It allows me to realize that my own personal sloppiness and others has been just us trying to work things out in whatever we understood at the time.

Does this apply to the truly evil people?  The people who commit such acts of atrocity and laugh?  I would like to believe that it is a complicated set of situations that made them who they were.  It is then their responsibility, as we have our responsibility, to connect to our source and seek that which is healthy, affirming, gentle, and nurturing. 

For some of us it is easier than others.  Our brains are healthier than others.  Our social systems have been and are healthier than others.  We collectively, are working to discover what works better.  Better nutrition and whole foods, better communities, better rehabilitation in prisons.  These are all good for all of us.  However, it is not good for all of us to continue to perpetuate systems that promote greater opportunity and freedoms for the wealthy and less opportunity and freedoms for the poor.  I am not calling for socialism; I’m calling for justice in which those who work hard are rewarded.  Our current system of capitalism does not allow that when people are living on less than living wages having to do 2 part time jobs and not be home to positively influence any children.  We have more and more people brought in to the world uneducated, neglected, and bitter and full of low self-esteem.

I am optimistic that with social media we have expanded our levels of awareness and are realizing that this arrangement simply does not work.  I believe that we will find and make changes to produce a world culture where things will work better.  As ugly as it is, like an exploded boil full of pus and blood, I believe that we are seeing the true ugliness and that this will be the time to heal.

Blessed be